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Catalyzing Conscious Leadership
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"To be Human means to be able to communicate/relate with self and others in a compassionate and non violent way."
Marshall Rosenberg
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7 Personality Types
Every person has a primary way of being in the world. This fundamental and universal style is called a personality type. Sometimes referred to as a character trait or role. It accounts for the way we approach tasks, our typical way of thinking, our unique abilities and special skills that others appreciate in us. It reveals our true nature that is often obscured by expectations and causing us to adapt to cultural values, parental and social conditioning. These are often no more than false belief’s about who we think we ought to be. Owning up to our true nature is important and empowering for our general well-being, happiness and success in life.
Knowing the different types not only helps us to understand ourselves but also those we are dealing with, both in the workplace and in our personal life. It is a key to understanding whom we are interacting with in various circumstances such as when negotiating, mediating, supervising, strategizing, creating or problem solving.
Which of the seven types is yours: artisan, storyteller, server, priest, warrior, king or scholar? Harness and use your full potential, benefiting both yourself and everyone around you!
Learn how to…..
• strengthen your self-leadership skills
• explore and increase your self-acceptance
• gain insights into people’s differences and uniqueness
• create better relationships through understanding and acceptance
• cultivate compassion
• balance group efficiency and create powerful teams
• deal with difficult people
• increase skills for training, coaching, interviewing and organizing
projects
Resources: 7 Personality Types by Elizabeth Puttick
Why do we react so differently to events or people when under stress? Why do some people seem to be stuck in their analytical, rational mind while others are given to emotional outbursts. Then there are those that get themselves into trouble by acting before thinking. How can we learn to understand and respond positively to others instead of knocking heads with people that act differently from us? These are the issues we will explore in this Keys to Balance® reaction style seminar.
Your primary reaction style describes your split-second response in the moment to any given situation, and how that reaction is expressed. This first habitual, well-developed reaction will tend to be either intellectual, emotional or action-oriented. These three styles are entirely different from one another. We inhabit all of them but in different sequences. When we are under stress, we slip from the first one -- our comfort zone -- to the middle one -- the trap. To get out of the trap we need to move to the third one -- the balancer -- and get back to a centered place and clarity.
These reaction styles contribute to a rich and varied workplace. Understanding all of them will help you communicate better and avoid challenging situations that arise when talking to people whose preferential style is different from yours. Not understanding where your opponent is coming from often plays havoc with otherwise potentially successful business transactions, plans and teamwork. The goal is to develop relative balance and a working familiarity with all of the reaction styles. Learning to identify them and understand how they operate is critical for successful communication on the job, at home or anywhere else.
Recognize your own style and that of others to create dynamic and effective interactions with everyone! The easy-to-use keys for balancing these styles offer you vibrant and powerful communication skills.
Learn how to….
• understand the three reaction styles
• identify your own style
• refine your communication skills
• relieve yourself from stress
• enhance team-work and customer service
• become a master at interpreting others’ reactions
• strengthen coaching and training skills
• manage conflicts and increase productivity
• implement the four steps to effective communication
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"I met
Rúna at the WIN conference in Oslo (Sept 07) where she helped me
understand some of the personal and professional blockages in front of
me and gave me both the tools and techniques to surmount them. Her
workshop was well structured and her presence dynamic. A truly
balanced and inspirational trainer."
- Kristen Davis, International Herald Tribune, Paris, France
Choose the Right Attitude
7 Attitudes
Isn’t it amazing how differently we all see the world? We can be looking at an event with friends or colleagues and each person perceives what is happening totally differently. One person might becomes very skeptical, another throws in some cynical comments, the third one sees endless possibilities. Then there are those that see everything with a spiritual undertone, and those that show absolutely no facial expressions There is always a prson that sees things as they are and then the one that takes a pragmatic approach to what is happening. What are those different expressions to the same event? We call these the seven universal attitudes that allow people to see through different colored lenses. Being universal you will find these attitudes throughout all the population around the world regardless of race, gender, culture or age. These are: skepticism, idealism, stoicism, spiritualism, cynicism, realism and pragmatism.
These various attitudes make an important contribution to any given situation in the workplace. With a little observation you may notice that each person you meet or work with tends to hold an habitual attitude. You can gradually predict their attitude towards people, events or happenigs. All attitudes have their favorable points and their limitations, and some are more challenging than others. Your most familiar or primary attitude developed over years of imprinting and conditioning, reflects your assumptions about situations and influences others. This casts a light on why we view our hopes, fears, goals, expectations and people around us differently. The attitude reflects the internal concepts we hold, and is often revealed in our body language.
Successful business endeavors require the positive input of each attitude, or they risk serious vulnerability. Knowing a little about each one can be of tremendous help in understanding yourself and other people so that you can communicate more effortlessly. You want to increase interpersonal awareness and effectiveness, and use this knowledge to assist you in understanding the strengths and weaknesses of all the players around you.
Learn how to…
• assess your own primary attitude
• appreciate the benefits of each attitude
• identify the best attitude for challenging situations
• use these tools for attitude adjustments
• communicate efficiently with people of different attitudes
Do you know what you are focusing on achieving or attempting to master? Do you know what is your theme in life? This is your primary motivator. It is what you are always striving to accomplish, over and above your career goals or other interests. We seek out certain types of experiences and life situations that cause us to act in predictable ways, bringing us face to face with this theme so that we continually examine the issues and improve our skills. We call this our goal in life. The seven goals are: discrimination, acceptance, re-evaluation, growth, submission, dominance, and relaxation.
Knowing your goal can be extremely valuable because it allows you to focus on what is important to you at the deepest level. For example, if your goal is growth, then you can challenge yourself without feeling guilty that you are striving for too much. Discovering other people’s goals helps us be clearer and kinder about their individuality and their differences from us.
Become aware of your underlying goal, and also understand what drives others!
Learn how to…
• identify your own goal
• appreciate and understand the goals of others
• choose activities for yourself and others that are naturally motivating
• create greater acceptance of assignments
• use these tools to focus on important aspects of a job, task, or project
• enhance team setting by identifying each player's goal.
What is your habitual approach to tasks and people? How do you get things done? How do you achieve your goals in life? This is your favorite way of operating that you most often use to make something happen.
These traits are called modes; they are a very prominent feature of your personality and often easily noticeable to others. The seven modes are: caution, power, reserved, passion, perseverance, aggression, and observation. How and where you use your modes makes all the difference in the world in terms of whether you are successful or not.
The workplace is highly influenced by people’s modes and how they use them. Each style has its pros and cons. Matching the right modes to the right jobs is crucial to the successful execution of tasks, and the overall success of an organization. Imagine putting a person with caution mode in a position where decisiveness, high level of innovation and quick response is required, or having a person with power mode in a subordinate position with little responsibility, and no opportunity for decision-making. These kinds of misplacements of employees do not make for happy campers nor a productive workplace.
Learn about which modes best describe you and how you can balance your behavior in interpersonal and team-settings.
Learn how to…
• choose or assign tasks best suited to individual modes
• improve customer service by understanding customers’ modes
• succeed with personal and group challenges
• escape from the negative side of your mode
• increase acceptance of others with different modes from yours
What happens when you are under stress or trying to cope with challenging situations? Have you ever stopped to watch yourself change from being this perfectly decent and nice person to this strange creature acting out? The result can be unproductive and often destructive to the detriment of yourself and those around you. We all experience this at one time or another. What is this dark and shadowy self that seems to live inside of you and pop out when you least expect it? We call them obstacles, sometimes referred to as dragons. This is our ego-coping mechanism that shows up when we feel the need to defend ourselves. This is almost always a reaction based on fear. The dragons give us a false feeling of protection and control. They are in fact devastatingly harmful, and get us into serious trouble. The seven obstacles are: self-destruction, greed, self-deprecation, arrogance, martyrdom, impatience and stubbornness.
In the workplace the obstacles are responsible for indescribable losses of productivity, sickness, burnout, waste of resources and manpower, low self-esteem, rage and rudeness, sabotage and general unhappiness. They are also parasites to families, friendships and relationships, and are the primary culprit causing dysfunctional and destructive behavior. Understanding how to deal with dragon infested people such as “the impossible to please”, “the resistant to change”, or “the whiner personality” is most important. The obstacles are responsible for all human-created suffering. Unless you learn to identify them and then tame them, you will become their slave. Without awareness of this negative behavior, innovation and creativity in organizations can be killed in its infancy.
You may find a bit of yourself in all of the dragons, but you have specialized in some more than others. Since you are most often blind to your own fear patterns, it may be helpful to consider how others, that know you, describe you under stress. Your negative behavior is always obvious to them even though a stranger to yourself.
Learn how to…
• understand the advantage of knowing all seven dragons
• flush out your own dragons and those of your company
• use specific strategies to face and defeat the dragons
• identify the dragon obstacles that sabotage productivity
• eradicate the powerful dragons from dominating the workplace
• create strategies to manage and cope with stress related behavior
• appreciate the concept of a healthy dragon free person
• promote harmonious environment for better team-work and personal
dynamics
Have you ever thought of your life needing strong legs to support you like a four-legged stool? If one or more of the legs are weak, bent or broken the stool is going to be very wobbly. The same applies to your life.
Our modern lives are complex and busy. We attend to many different tasks and needs. How we balance life’s demands contributes to our overall good health and well-being. Bringing the qualities of the four pillars of vitality into our lives on a daily basis can not only make a tremendous difference in the quality of life but also opens us up to the magic of life.
The four pillars of vitality are true play, true rest, true work and true study. When used in a balanced way, they will support you, and balance all areas of your life. You need grounding in order to be fully present in your body, and to live in joy. True play will do that. True rest will rejuvenate you. True work brings forth your talents, and true study helps you focus, preparing you for the true work. Balance will bring vitality, progress and success into your life. Your appetite for life will increase, and you will be amazed at how much better you feel. Life can be fun!
Learn how to…
• build up resistance to negativity
• balance your daily activities
• provide a healthy, stress-free environment
• discover your own pillars of vitality
• integrate activities that strengthen and cultivate your pillars
• discover & strengthen your true life purpose
• balance all areas of your life
• have fun
Have you ever experienced boredom or agitation in a job, or simply felt that you are not in the right place doing the right thing? Most of us have had an experience like that sometime in our working life or even in our relationships. The cause of this might be that your essential needs are not being met. We are not talking about primal, biological needs like food, drink, shelter, rest, fresh air and so on. We are talking about some basic psychological needs that have to be met so we can achieve a sense of contentment, fulfillment, or plainly being happy and balanced doing what we are doing in life. Each person needs to be responsible for having their own primary needs met.
The nine needs are: exchange, security, adventure, influence, expression, freedom, expansion, recognition and communion. Each of us has three of those nine needs as our favorite ones. They demand special attention as they are more important to us than the other six, which we have to a lesser degree. When we ignore them we often unconsciously display somewhat forceful, belligerent or destructive behavior in order to satisfy our hunger. When we nurture them, we experience a sense of accomplishment, joy and happiness. People who share all or some of the same primary needs will feel a connection or common bond. Working with or being in relationship with people who have no needs in common with you will often bring up challenging situations.
In a business climate, having a basic understanding of the various needs promises to improve communication, cooperation, morale and teamwork dramatically. By understanding another’s needs, especially if they are different from your own, you can start cultivating acceptance, and show more compassion. Hiring the right person for the job becomes easier, and you can ensure greater satisfaction in meeting the needs of customers, partners, suppliers, staff and family members.
Learn how to…
• identify your top three needs
• understand others’ needs and improve group dynamics
• increase customers’ satisfaction
• explore your job and primary needs compatibility
• create opportunities to balance your needs
• match the right people to the right job
• become happier and more fulfilled
Have you ever stopped to wonder why people have such very different values and outlook on life? Have you noticed that these differences have nothing to do with people’s level of intelligence, gender, race, heritage, cultural background, nationality or wealth?
Our values go hand in hand with our perception of the world around us and create our worldview, which is reflected in our beliefs and behavior. They tell us how we habitually see things, and they influence all of our personality traits. They account for major differences in people with similar traits. If we know what others value – or what they are afraid of – we can learn to approach them in a constructive way.
Here we will deal with five different sets of values and states of perception that differ greatly from each other and are reflected by a wide range of behavior. They are surviving, rule-oriented, competing, relationship-oriented, and philosophical. Differences in these value sets and worldviews can be seen in the nature of relationships, reactions to change, relationship to authority, eating habits and eye contact. No one set of values is better than the other; they are simply different.
Learn how to…
• deepen your understanding of the values within a company
• bridge gaps between people with different sets of values
• perceive how we all have each of these values and worldviews
• identify the values of those you are dealing with
• discover your own set of values
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